My mum passed away yesterday.

At 4:50 AM on Wednesday the 27th of October 2021, my life changed forever.

That was when my mum passed away.

She was in hospital for the last month of her life, and in for 3 weeks at the end of August. Her health had been failing for months now and she had a lot of tests done.

She had a procedure on her gallbladder and she had complications due to that (she developed pancreatitis) and then she developed pneumonia. 

In the end, her heart couldn't take any more.

I was at the hospital a lot in her final days and I think that helped me process what was going on. When my grandma died, it was sudden and I wasn't involved in anything. The last time I saw my grandma, she was sitting in her hospital bed, drinking a glass of water and making a list of things my mum and I had to take up to the hospital.
She was dead a few hours later.

With my mum, the last time I saw her alive, she was struggling to breathe, with an oxygen mask on and the nurses and doctors giving her medication to help her.

I saw her after she passed, and she looked so peaceful and I knew that she didn't have to suffer or fight to breathe anymore.

I didn't get to see my grandma after she passed, which I think caused a lot of grief issues with me. I actually believed for a while that she wasn't really dead, and the hospital had made a mistake. I saw a TV show which that happened in around the time. 

I'm having crying episodes and feeling sad, but talking about what happened and writing about it is good. I need to get the thoughts out of my head.


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